however the PC is in one room and the layout elsewhere, not a huge issue, WiFi between them works just fine, can use WiThrotteLite to drive a train.
which cannot turn the power on/off, I think the full one can.
left with two choice, go up and down stairs to turn the power on and off, a pain, or:
DCC-EX can be configured to listen to serial ports for throttles, well I don't need a full throttle, but an Arduino Nano sending <0> for power off and <1> for power on works perfectly.
the hardware is literally the Nano and two push buttons, internal pull up and connection to ground using the "button" library to manage debounce etc, serial link at 115,200 baud and thats it. could make it do more but this was what is needed - powered from the Mega via the motor board, works fine.
no longer have to climb stairs!